Motherhood is a profound transformation—a journey filled with love, chaos, and immeasurable joy. I would say it is the most important transformation in a woman’s life. But let’s face it: in the whirlwind of pregnancy hormones, breastfeeding, diaper changes, and late-night snuggles, it’s easy to lose sight of the person you were before. If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and wondered, “Who am I now?” you’re not alone.
Here are three powerful steps to help you reconnect with yourself and embrace the woman you’re becoming beyond being “mom.”
1. Revisit Your Passions
Before motherhood, what lit you up? Was it painting, hiking, writing, or something else entirely? Those passions still live within you—they’re just waiting for a little attention. Start small. Dedicate 15 minutes a day to something you love and I mean it. It is far better to aim for a 15 minute activity than a 1 hour one which may not really work. It might feel indulgent at first, but this is not about escaping your responsibilities; it’s about filling your cup so you can give from a place of abundance. Trust me, this can be the most important part of you becoming her.
Outcome: Rediscovering what brings you joy reminds you that your identity is multifaceted, empowering you to show up more fully in all areas of your life.
Recommended Resources:
- Start with a gratitude journal like The Five Minute Journal to focus on your passions and daily reflections.
- Want to dive back into creative pursuits? Skillshare offers inspiring courses on painting, writing, and more.
2. Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-Care
Being a mom often means putting everyone else’s needs first, but self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Learn to say no to things that drain you and yes to what nourishes you. I know it’s not at all easy but it is doable. Whether it’s a morning walk, a solo coffee date, or a guilt-free afternoon nap, carving out time for yourself sends a clear message: You matter, too.
Outcome: Consistent self-care creates a healthier, more balanced version of you, benefiting both you and your family.
Recommended Resources:
- Treat yourself to a Lush spa kit for a relaxing bath.
- Incorporate mindfulness with Headspace or Calm meditation apps to create space for your mental well-being.
- Need some cozy athleisure wear to help you feel your best while taking care of yourself?
3. Define Your New Identity
Motherhood changes you, but it doesn’t erase who you were. Think of this phase as a chance to redefine yourself. I have discovered much more within me in this journey of motherhood than I could ever imagine. What qualities, skills, or dreams have you gained through motherhood? Combine these with the person you were before to create a “new you” that feels authentic and aligned with your values. Journal, meditate, or talk it out with someone you trust.
Outcome: A clear understanding of your evolving identity brings confidence and clarity, making you feel more grounded and self-assured.
Recommended Resources:
- Use The Five Minute Journal for self-reflection and clarity in your journey.
- Consider therapy or coaching for guidance. BetterHelp offers online sessions to help you explore your evolving identity.
- Want to visually represent your new identity? Try using Etsy for personalized art or items that reflect your personal growth.
Embracing the Journey
Reclaiming your identity after motherhood isn’t about going back to who you were; it’s about stepping into a new, enriched version of yourself. You are not “just a mom.” You’re a dynamic, resilient, and ever-evolving individual. Give yourself grace as you explore this new chapter, and remember: the best version of you is still unfolding.
What’s one thing you’ll do today to start rediscovering yourself? Let’s inspire one another in this journey of becoming her beyond mom. 💕 Drop a comment below and let’s share our expriences.